I'm lost, where is the confusion?
DodgeVtX, I am not sure you are going to get it. The placard denotes the psi the tires should be set at for regular loads and light loads. If you set the psi to what it says for light load, then the light load button can be enabled. Why else would the even put a light load setting on the door placard if it didn't correspond to the light load button.
Forget what you have done experimenting with the air pressure. Just set it to what your door says and see if your light load button doesn't either come on or stays on when you push it.