I have always heard, in my long life, that it's harder on a diesel to start it and shut it of all day, than it is to let it run. The compression on these engines is extremely high, which in turn wears on the starter motor, and your always cranking a cold engine. It just isn't good for these motors. I don't know about the cylinder wash at low idle, and it doesn't really make sense to me either, but I'm not a diesel tech either. I used to idle my 04 5.9 all day long, through the winter months and the engine temp sat at around 120-140, and when I traded it off with 175,000 miles, never had a single engine related issue with it.
So now the only issue I've had with this new truck is the DPF plugging a couple times when trying to do the same thing, once this summer when it was 105 degrees and had to have the A/C on, and when it started getting colder I had the warning come on. So I had the high idle enabled, and have been setting it at about 13-1400 rpms, the engine temp sits at 190 all day, and haven't seen a warning since. Rolled over the 30,000 mile mark on the way to Kansas last night, and the DPF has been my only complaint about this truck.
I only suggest you do it as you need to, though, because the few days I've idled at that rpm, it's used about a 1/4 tank of fuel each time, and that is gonna get expensive. I would highly recommend an Espar Aux. Heater if you need to keep your truck warm in the winter months. They are about 1500 bucks installed at the dealer, and it will pay for itself in the fuel you will save.
That's about all I have to say. Take it for what you want.