The port size has nothing to do with the tip breaking off. The port size is SO TINY it makes no difference at all. Bad designs cause this kind of failure.
As to number of ports, it makes little difference. Bosch played around a lot with this, and settled on the 7 port. Combustion efficiency DID increase over the older 2 port tips of the 12valve, though.
Installing tips only is cheap and easy if you keep everything really clean, your tip quality is adequate, and your original pop pressure was fairly balanced to begin with. The pop pressure should change very little with the installation of tips, but I highly recommend carefully torquing your tips evenly, as the tapered threads (like pipe threads) can allow different depths which could affect pop pressure.
If it can't idle after installation, you either contaminated a tip (they are VERY VERY unforgiving of contamination-those ports are TINY) or the pop pressure will need to be adjusted. Pop pressure is set by applying pressure to the injector in a bench test and determining at what pressure the valve in the injector is overcome by the pressure. It is adjusted by changing shims on the spring that closes off the needle/seat valve in the tip. The actual pressure doesn't matter much, but it's very important that the injectors pop at the same pressure.