Get a on off on switch. Run your reverse light wire from the reverse switch to one side. And then back to the lights. In that position when in reverse the lights will come on. On the other side of the switch fine a 12vDc source and to the switch. Them to the lights. Put a one way diode in the wire going back to the switch on the side that goes to the revese switch that way you don't backfired the switch.